Gay porn, filled with fantasy and ideals – whether it be bodies, facial features, clothing or the lovely surroundings in which some scenes are set. We have all watched it, and if you say you haven;t, well, you’re missing out.
Dutch gay porn actor Alexx Desley, although relatively new to gay porn has already notched up work with Hard Brit Lads, Cazzo-Berlin and Treasure Island Media. I caught up with Alexx during a break while filming for UK Hot Jocks.
What inspired you to pursue a career in the gay porn industry?
That’s a nice question. I started because I had grown tired of stereotypical trends in porn. Every time I looked at porn actors, they were big and muscular with a big dick. I am none of those, so my quest was could I make it in porn even if I did not have all of those standards?
I applied to several porn studios and before I knew it, I was flying up and down Europe making porn.
You have a slim physique, with a more mature face. Do you think this is more appealing as a gay porn actor or does it have an adverse effect on the amount of work you do?
I have noticed that porn studios find it difficult to place me. We are gay, and in porn, there are many boxes. I couldn’t tell you which box I fit into – studios have the same problem.
I am a skin therapist as a day job. My new clients are often in shock when they meet me for the first time. But you should never judge a book by its cover.
You have worked for a variety of gay porn film distributors. Which is your favourite so far and why?
That is a difficult question. I love everything I do – if I didn’t like it, I wouldn’t do it.
I always wanted to do a scene for Cazzo Berlin and this year I did. I am super proud of it and cannot wait for the release.
Treasure Island Media is one of my favourites; they have some material with me that is yet to be released. I would say my best shoot was with Treasure Island media so be patient.
Do you prefer playing roles as a top or a bottom?
I always prefer to work as a top. Because I am a small guy, however, the role of bottom is usually played by me.
I am the worst bottom ever, by the way – I like to fuck. To work as a bottom is a challenge to get the best out of me.
Has gay porn changed since you first entered the industry?
Well there’s one thing I’ve noticed, and it’s strange because I have only done porn a year and a half. When I started, there was still this thing that barebacking is not done. Now almost every studio that said it wasn’t done, now does bareback.
To clarify, in bareback everyone is tested before the shoot to guarantee each other’s safety. Another thing that changed is that I can now film with actors with a varied HIV status. When I started, I could only do negative guys as my status is negative.
Is there anything you would not do in a scene or film?
I would never do scat movies. I don’t mind water sports, but scat is a bridge to far for me. Besides, I think I would look horrified.
Have you ever turned up for a shoot, and secretly not wanted to work with the other actor/actors involved?
That’s not happened yet. Mostly, I get a request and a model proposal, and then I can decide what I would like to do. And yes, some people are very nice to work with, but some are ideal. In general, there are no dramas.
Do you have a partner outside of the industry, if so, does it affect your relationship?
Yes, I have a very lovely bear at home, and let us say work is work. When I started this relationship, I was honest about my job in the industry.
I actually asked him not to watch my movies or shows as I didn’t want him getting the wrong impression of who I really am off camera. I even asked if he wanted me to quit.
In my job, I am Alexx in private I am me… Luckily, he is very understanding, therefore it doesn’t affect us at all. We are both very clear and honest with each other.
Has being a gay porn actor affected your family life?
No, not really. I believe if you don’t create a taboo about something, the taboo will not exist. So I never made a fuss about it. Everyone knows what I am doing, and everyone is at peace with my decision to work in porn.
The only thing I did was change my name out of respect for my family’s name.
Who has been your favourite actor to work with and why?
Oh, that is difficult! I have had the pleasure to work with Saxon West on multiple occasions. He’s a lovely guy and very sexy.
For R18, I did a show with Riley Tess. He was very nice as well. Unfortunately, I have never filmed with Riley, but he is on my wish list.