This week we are introduced to the penultimate video by Billy LLoyd in our series entitled ‘Fake’. This video contemplates the social dynamic surrounding one-night stands and the way social media has changed the way we view sex and love.
Why do you think the concept of a one night stand has become so commonplace in today’s society?
I guess over time, what we consider morally ok changes. I think one night stands becoming more common is perhaps to do with our culture of quick pleasure in general. But I see no issue with it.
Do you think the manner in which it has become so “easy” and somewhat cheap in terms of emotional involvement has long term negative effects?
I think as long as you’re honest with yourself about what you’re doing, that this encounter doesn’t necessarily mean anything beyond mutual pleasure, then there’s no reason that there should be any long term negative effects.
What’s your experience of dating apps such as Grindr?
I think they have a lot of issues like racism/misogyny masquerading as ‘preference’, but for the most part I really like them. Through Grindr, for example, I’ve met a lot of people that I’ve ended up collaborating with creatively (including the director of all these music videos, Misha MN) and I also just quite enjoy seeing who’s around.
Would you have a one-night stand? And why?
Sure, I don’t really see anything wrong with it as long as all parties are having fun and there’s clear communication throughout. I think you learn a lot about yourself in such experiences.
Do you agree with the idea that we use sex to try and fill a void within ourselves? That we use it as a temporary escape from our situation?
I think it’s probably more realistic to say that everyone has sex for different reasons. It’s probably not very healthy to use sex to fill a void within yourself (those a joke here, but I’m not gonna do it), but if that’s what you need to get you through till you’re in a better place, go ahead!
Now within the song you say “don’t say I love you”, why is this? Is it because you know it to be a lie or do you still have some respect for the words “I love you” that you don’t wish for them to be tarnished by being used in such a context?
The line comes from being in post-coital bliss and feeling like you want to say that to someone who you’ve just met and just recognising the weirdness of that concept. It’s a lie but also the phrase ‘I love you’ is still very powerful, and it’s not something I like to throw around.
Why do you think people mistake that post-coital bliss as being “love”? Is this perhaps love, and people like myself are being too conservative to realise this? Or do you think a societal gap exists wherein we have lost our understanding of love?
There’s so many different kinds of love and when you’ve spent the past few hours being with someone in a very intimate way, I can see an argument for it being ‘love’.
If you could explain your definition of love to me in one sentence, what would that sentence say?
Love is when you just know.
Please enjoy this cinematic art piece and just lose yourself in this post-coital soundtrack.